JUST BE, RIGHT HERE AND RIGHT NOW

Over the past two weeks, I have been writing a new blog - HERO AND ROMANCE. The reason was: I am looking for both in my life. No matter how hard I tried to puzzle the words “up-side-down” or “inside-out”, I still was not able to organize my words solidly. After the sixth draft, my mind was exhausted. I literally sat there criticizing myself: “You can’t write…I wish I was a writer….how come you started to write a blog?” I was at the moment of feeling frustrated and disappointed. I imagined myself sitting at the bottom of a ‘hopeless’ well, looking up helplessly, waiting for someone – a hero to get me out of this deep dark hole. Have you had the moment like getting stuck in traffic? You cannot go forward or return back – not in the past, not in the future, not even in the present. The only thing you can do is to wait and hope for the best will come soon.

It did take me quite a while to recover from the last relationship. Searching for a new love makes one vulnerable, emotional and doubtful. I had all kinds of thoughts that holding me back. I was haunted by the fear in the past. I had moments of drowning in frustration and unworthiness. The more I was focused on the lack, the more I was falling back down to the ‘hopeless’ well. However, when I have doubt, I ask myself: What makes me feel loved with or without a lover? What make me feel happy regardless what situation I am in – pleasant or unpleasant, accompanied or lonely, fulfilled or empty?

After an unmotivated and unproductive week, I heard my strength, courage and ability so clearly. I pick up my thoughts and write again. I no longer want to hide; I no longer hold any doubt to fall in love again. I AM THE HERO and I AM THE ROMANCE of my own life. Everything starts from within our minds. I have to remember. Romance could be a love at first sight, young with older love, unrequited love, obsessive love, sentimental love, spiritual love, forbidden love, passionate love, sacrificial love and tragic love. You would not know how the story goes until you start one. No matter which type of romance you are fond of. You just go for the flow and hope for the best. Romance magically happens because of who we are and the trust in life. It is exciting, fun, mysterious, spontaneous and adventurous. The best love story needs a right time, right place and right person. However, the
most important part is the right feeling to attract the love that is right for you. I think I get the right formula. Just be, right here and right now.

Love and light,
Mandy

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